Stop taking on things that are NOT yours to carry. This includes other people’s opinions, wounded perceptions, cutting comments, shaming words, or harsh tones. Yes, hurting people hurt people, however healthy people value self-respect, and set boundaries. The boundary line says “You are welcome in this space when you treat me with respect and honor”, however “You are not welcome in this space if YOU choose NOT to.” Sounds simple, however I empathize with the difficulty and tension involved. Don’t buy the lie that overlooking ‘mistreatment’ is being LOVE or Christ-like. Yes, we are directed to forgive, extend grace, and love without conditions, however choosing to love and honor yourself is just as important as loving others well.

Love & Courage,

Diane Anil